Safe online dating

Following a recent Government report on online dating, new guidelines have been issued to help keep people safe when using online dating websites:

Creating your online dating profile: protect your identity and personal information

Be Anonymous

– Choose a username that doesn’t let everyone know who you are. Don’t include your surname or any other identifying information such as your place of work either in your profile or when you first make contact.

– Remember that overtly sexual, provocative or controversial usernames could attract the wrong kind of attention.

– Keep contact details private. Stay in control when it comes to how and when you share information. Don’t include your contact information such as your email address, home address, or phone number in your profile or initial communications. Take things slowly and share more information when you feel comfortable doing so. It is impossible to get back information once you have given it away.

– Stop communicating with anyone who attempts to pressure you into providing your personal or financial information or who seems to be trying to trick you into providing it. If this happens contact the dating provider immediately to not only protect yourself but other users too.

Password & Security

– Be careful when accessing your account from a public or shared computer so that others can’t view or record your password or personal information.

– Be wary of opening email attachments from someone you have only just met

– Ensure that you keep your internet security software up to date.
Connecting With New People Online

Get to know people, take your time and trust your instincts. Act with caution and learn more about someone before contacting him or her outside of the dating site. Dating services run mail and chat so you can get to know people in a safer and [monitored/controlled] way. They do it to protect you, not to make money. Use their platform and the added security it gives. If and when you do decide to share an e-mail address think about creating a separate and anonymous email address.

Take Your Time

– Sometimes when you’re excited about someone, your instincts can be confused by strong feelings. Take care and take your time when you talk about yourself. You don’t need to give out your life-story the first time you chat – and you shouldn’t. There will be plenty of time to share such details if your relationship develops.

Money Requests Are Your Red Light

– Why would someone need to borrow money off somebody they have never met, or only just met? There is no reason for anyone to ask you for money or your financial information, whatever sad or sob story they give. Always keep your bank and account information private. Stop all contact immediately and report the matter to the dating site.

Report Unacceptable or Suspicious Behaviour

– Nobody should have to put up with offensive, insulting and threatening behaviour online any more than they should or would if talking to someone in a bar or café. Trust your instincts and immediately stop communicating with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or apprehensive. Never feel embarrassed to report a problem to the dating service. You are helping them and doing other users a favour.

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Five dating profile mistakes

Are you making these common mistakes on your adult dating profile?

  1. Uploading the wrong type of photo: Your profile photo is the first thing anyone sees so choosing the right one is vital! It should be a good photo but also a good likeness of you and  accurate. It should be recent and not Photoshopped. Try and upload a selection of photos. Casual, smart, seductive. Avoid uploading photos that contain other people in it.
  2. Being too ‘average’. Everyone likes going out and being with their friends… but what makes you special? Be interesting and try and paint a picture of who you are and what makes you different.
  3. Telling porkies. When you lie you will probably eventually be found out. Everyone shaves a few inches here and add add a few inches there but dont go over the top. No one likes a time waster or a liar.
  4. Blank profile. A blank profile will just get ignored. It’s the next worst thing to having no photo. You’re either boring, lazy or fake. Make an effort!
  5. Writing a novel. At the same time no one wants to read a novel of a bio so keep it short and sweet and interesting.

10 Sex Tips For Couples


1. Have sex in the mornings often

It’s been proven that morning sex is good for you! Being less self-conscious and the fact that your partner is right there it’s an excellent way to start the day!

2. Surprise your significant other

Everyone enjoys surprises when it comes to sex!  Why not welcome your partner home with a sexy surprise. You could do a sexy strip or undress them without saying a word.

3. Share your ultimate fantasies

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you should be able to truly open up, especially when it comes to your deepest fantasies. Try to be open about what turns you on and accepting of what the other wants. Try to fulfill these desires  but also know that some fantasies can’t be fulfilled and that that’s fine.

4. Flirt!

So many people think flirting is what you do to attract your partner and to get their clothes off. But it’s much more than that. Flirting is playful and fun so send your partner a cheeky wink and a reminder that you’re still into them, even when you’re not in the bedroom.

5. Try at least one new position a month

Variety is the spice of life so make sure to make the effort to try something new and exciting each month. Even if its not that sexy, at least you can have a giggle!

6. Get frisky in public

There are so many public places where you can have naughty times with your partner so adult fun doesn’t have to be just in the bedroom. Be discrete and creative, you can make it happen.

7. Role-play meeting for the first time

It may sounds strange but meeting each other in a bar like you’re strangers can be very exciting!

8. Get off, often

Making out is underestimated. You are probably with your partner because it all started with a kiss so why stop now? Don’t think of making out as just something that has to lead to sex, appreciate it for what it is.

9. Use technology

Sexting. If you haven’t done it yet, is, in one word, fantastic. It’s basically the hi-tech modern version of foreplay. It’s also a way to liven up your boring day at work!

10. Watch porn together

Contrary to what most people thing woman love watching porn too! Find something that you both enjoy. If video porn isn’t doing it for you why not try some written porn.

Real Sex Contacts Reviews

Has anyone had any experience of the adult dating website Real Sex Contacts – It’s becoming one of the fastest UK sex contacts websites on the scene with a growing base of males and females so we’re interested to hear from you if you have used the website.

Write about your experiences, the good the bad and the ugly in the comments below!

Beginners guide to anal sex


The most important part of anal sex is preparation.

Now I do not mean just a couple minutes before doing it, I mean days to even weeks!

Weeks you say..?

Yes really! The average sized penis is too big for most first timers.

At the end of the day you want to enjoy it. There is a reason a lot of people say it’s painful or they tried it once and will never try it again.

So, preparation!


Use a butt plug set, they come in all shapes and sizes – perfect to start with!

Get a set or couple ranging in size from small to something the size of your partner – or bigger (my little tip)

Start with the smallest one, lube it up, pop it in and go watch tv or something.

After a while you will forget all about it!

Then over the next few days work your way up in size, start with the smallest each time, then put a bigger one in after you are comfortable with the smaller one (take the smaller one out before putting the bigger one in)

When you are comfortable with a butt plug the same size of your partner you are ready!

All prepared, no worry of pain.


When it comes to anal sex, I hear/read this a lot!
Normally followed by they only do anal once a year or they do not like it blah blah.

Now by all means use lube – 100% do.


You do not need to be a slip slide back there, if anything it makes you feel messy/dirty (and not in a good way)

Some friction during anal is fine, you want to be able to feel it – as it feels great!


No backing out now..

With the prior preparation I advise, you should have no troubles with this but here are a few tips just for you.
– Breathe in when going in , opens you up and makes everything easier
– Feel like pushing out during? this can take a little getting used to. Stop, take a breath and start at your own pace when ready
– Partner on the larger side? Try leaning forward of backwards – can make deeper penetration easier or just stay at a shallower depth
– Push down slightly(like you are going for a poo) – this will open you up which makes penetration easier
– Relax! Do not get worked up by it, you being relaxed is the most important part.


O my – What if there is something left on his…eww

With prior preparation this should not happen but if it does, o well!

After all – it is your ass!

If your partner can not handle the possibility of something being left behind, then they clearly should not be having anal sex at all.

For your peace of mind, have some tissue/wet wipe close.
When you are done – wrap the tissue around the base of his penis and pull upwards while you get off.

Taking the condom off at the same time if you are using them (recommend)

Clean, quick, any mess left will be very minimal!

20 sex tips for men, by women!

1.) Talk dirty to us, but not so dirty we have to wash your mouth with soap. There are some girls who are very comfortable with talking dirty, and there are those who get hives just thinking about sexting someone a naughty message. Effortless talking (such as telling me what you like) is encouraged, but please don’t call me your “dirty little slut.” Too often is a moment ruined by the word “cock”.

2.) A small one is only a small concern. When I first brought up the topic of sexual turnoffs the first response in every group was almost always the same “small dick.” However, immediately after someone else would follow up saying something along the lines of it “it isn’t size that matters, it is the motion of the ocean.” I’m not going to lie to you guys, when we first lay eyes on your below average penis we are going to feel a little discouraged. It isn’t that we don’t have faith in your skill, but you are naturally at a disadvantage when it comes to certain positions. On the other hand, an enormous penis is actually less attractive for some girls. No one wants to feel like they are losing their virginity all over again. Most girls will say they prefer average or slightly-above-average sized guys.

3.) When in doubt: don’t ask us to have anal sex with you. Unless you are my boyfriend and we’ve previously discussed this possibility, I am not going to let you have anal sex with me. I don’t care if you have lube, I don’t care if you’re the hottest guy i’ve ever seen. I do not want to have anal sex with you.

4.) Blow job etiquette. If you are lucky enough that we have decided to give you a blow job, please do not “help”. Although an indication that you’re enjoying yourself is extremely helpful, and lifting our hair so you can watch the show is fine…that is all you should be doing. If you touch our head, push it down, etc– we WILL gag. It is degrading. I once heard a guy say that they love the sound of a girl gagging while giving them a blow job. I hope someday somebody pukes on his dick.

5.) We said “ow” not “wow”. Sex, although fantastic, can also occasionally be painful for us. Women have a pretty high tolerance for pain, so usually we don’t speak up unless you are seriously hurting us. THEREFORE IF WE SAY “OW” it means STOP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING!!! Be less aggressive in this situation!! “Ow” isn’t a good thing…. okay?

6.) Sensitivity can lead to pain. You like having your balls touched. You don’t like having an aggressive amount of force applied to them, because that is painful. The same rule applies to the clitoris. You should absolutely be paying attention to it, but please be gentle. There are more nerve endings on the clitoris than anywhere else in the female body.

7.) The golden rule always applies… to oral sex. Treat others the way you’d like to be treated. In other words: If we go down on you, you should go down on us. It is so simple, yet so misunderstood. Do you think we ENJOY giving you head? Not particularly. We do it because we want to see you happy!

8.) Stop assuming condoms are optional. Unless we are dating and have previously discussed this matter, please assume you need to wear a condom. Just because we are on birth control doesn’t mean you didn’t bang 9 other girls this year. Immediately go “soft” with a condom on?? Seriously……. #herpesisforever

9.) The finish line is negotiable, but it isn’t on our face. Most girls prefer you ask before finishing anywhere on their body, with the exception of maybe their stomach. However, no girl wants you to ask if you can cum on her face. If a girl agrees to let you do this, it is because she is afraid that if she says no she will look like a prude bitch. Unless it is her idea…. but i’m not sure why she’d want that…. and I think very few of these girls actually exist.

10.) We weren’t paid to come here, don’t treat us like hookers. I think that passion is underrated. You don’t nessessarily have to love us or be our boyfriend, but please acknowledge the fact that SOME connection brought us here together and you aren’t paying us hourly. Treat us with respect, and since you are already there…. at least be present.

11.) Ease into kinky shit, unless previously discussed. Some girls love their hair pulled, others find it degrading. Don’t assist her in the balding process, but a little tug never hurt anybody. Also– don’t assume she likes fingers in her butt. You don’t like anybody touching your ass and you have a prostate gland! Not everybody is into it!

12.) Choking 101. A lot of girls are not into choking at all, but there are quite a few who like it WHEN DONE CORRECTLY!!! There is a difference between a sexy/light choke, and “why is this guy trying to kill me” choke.

13.) If we wanted to get lost in a forest, we’d go on a hiking trip. As a friend of mine once said “if i’m flossing later and find a pube, i’m blocking your number.” You don’t need to be perfectly manscaped, but if you look like you’ve never even trimmed we’re going to be horrified. It doesn’t make you more of a man if you don’t take care of business. Imagine if a girl had a bush… you’d be grossed out…. it goes both ways.

14.) Personal Hygiene. After a long night out I understand that your breath is probably going to smell similar to mine (which reeks of tequila), but it shouldn’t reek of your breakfast from yesterday too. Theres a big difference between recently unbrushed teeth and “George Washington” teeth. It should be obvious enough that body oder is the ultimate mood killer. Why would I want your unshowered body rubbing all over me? Please get it off!!!!

15.) We are not porn stars. This doesn’t make us prudes, this doesn’t mean we suck in bed. What it does mean is that we don’t want to be treated like a girl with trashy tattoos and daddy issues who wants nothing more than to bathe in your cum (sorry that was vulgar). If you want to have selfish sex, have it with your hand. Most of us embrace trying new things, but they should be enjoyable for both people involved.

15.) Switch it up. Missionary is the most popular position because it is the easiest… but every night shouldn’t feel like a #tbt to losing our virginity. You’re more likely to last longer if you’re changing positions and thus increasing the chances that we’re going to enjoy ourselves. Take initiative!

16.) SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE. We’ve all heard the story of the tortoise and the hare. Well, if you learned anything from that story I hope it is that no girl wants to be fucked like a rabbit (“jack hammering”). I’m not insisting that we turn this into an hour-long arrangement…… but wtf are you rushing for it is 2am and neither of us has anywhere to be?

17.) Don’t forget foreplay. For the life of me I cannot understand why men think foreplay is negotiable. The most enjoyable part of sex for many of us is the foreplay. Just because YOU are ready doesn’t mean we are! Do you not realize that if a girl is dry she isn’t ready to go? The more effort you put forth during foreplay, the better the overall sex will be for everyone. Its all in your hands!!!

18.) Lingerie is not a birthday present. It should be given as a “just because” present. Lingerie is not an acceptable christmas/birthday/valentines gift. It is technically not for our personal enjoyment.

19.) Don’t get so drunk that you get whisky dick… especially when you KNOW you’re bringing somebody home. If you know you suffer from alcohol induced erectile disfunction #drinkless. Would you like another shot or your nut?

20.) Just because you’re done doesn’t mean the party is over. As previously stated, most girls get off better during foreplay. Therefore, if you f’up and finish earlier than anticipated, you should still keep things going. Otherwise you just wasted this girl’s time, and look like a selfish jerk. A 2-pump-chump can be awkward, but YOU can fix it!!!